Be More Confident in 2017

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I know that everyone is consumed with their New Year resolutions like lose weight, save money, find love, get a new job, etc. However, the key to achieving all those great things (besides faith in God of course!) is CONFIDENCE! You can’t hope to do much in the new year if you are still afraid to stand out in the crowd and be seen! You’ve got to SHOW UP and SHOW OUT girl! Here are a few tips that can help…

Stop caring about what others think

A confident woman could give a flying f**k what the heck someone else thinks! Especially when it pertains to her goals, family and how she gets her COINS! The days of asking for permission or approval are OVER hunny! Get out there and do what the heck you want! You’ve got to make life happen! And stop hanging out with people who always have something negative to say. They feel like crap and want you to feel like crap too. Watch out for those confidence-suckers who get in your head and make you feel less-than.

Step out of your comfort zone

The desire to remain complacent is so easy because it’s comfortable. It’s “safe” to not speak up and “play the background”, as they say, because if you don’t make waves then you won’t rock the boat, right? However, you have to realize that, while you are extra cozy in your comfort zone, there are no changes being made for the better. You will find yourself in the same situation this time next year if you don’t start to try new things.

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Love the skin you’re in

I know this is a soft spot for a lot of women, myself included! You tell yourself “If I just lose 20 pounds i’ll be a BEAST!” “If I had money for nicer clothes I would go out more.” Stop telling yourself these things! How much you weigh and how nice your clothes are have JACK to do with how you should feel about yourself. Take your beautiful 20-pound-overweight-behind out and shake things up! Grab those worn out jeans, toss on some cute jewelry to jazz it up (insert business plug here!) and hit the scene sista! It’s all about mindset.

Which brings me to my last, and most important tip…

Renew your mind

There is a bitch of a critic in our heads who constantly tells us we are too ugly, fat, stupid, lonely and boring to strive for better. She is like a gnat buzzing around your ear 24/7 and she must be DESTROYED! Instead of listening to that nonsense, feed your mind with positive affirmations, books that teach you how to be your best-self, hang around people who uplift and encourage you. Kick that sorry excuse for a boyfriend who you’ve been dealing with forever even though you know you need to leave his butt– to the curb! Stay away from the things that trigger insecurity in your life and be intentional about only allowing good and positive thoughts.

Make these adjustments and you’ll soon see that, with a little confidence, the world truly is your oyster!

 

Save money, without thinking about it!

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I know this time of year is focused mostly on spending but I would like to encourage you to spend (ha ha, get it? LOL) a little time thinking about SAVING. This is something I’ve always struggled with. I’m pretty good at sticking to a budget but, before my Paparazzi business, there was little left over for saving.

I’m a believer that God will not bless you with more money until you learn to manage what you have. If you can’t manage $100, why would God bless you with $1,000? He wants us to live an abundant life so saving has got to be a priority.

Saving money allows you to stop living that “paycheck to paycheck” lifestyle because you can have peace of mind knowing that you have a cushion in case of financial emergency.

Digit is the solution to anyone who says “I would save if I had the extra money.” I felt this way as well. How can I put aside $100 a month when I need to pay bills? Well, Digit allows me to save money by withdrawing a small amount of funds from my checking account. Amounts like $1.50, $0.98 and $3.49. Amounts that I don’t miss, so its perfect!

If you’re like me, and not super great at saving then I definitely recommend Digit. I’m no where near the amount I’d like to have saved, but I’m a long way from what I had when I saved on my own!

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Taking time away from work to deal with “life”

sorrySo there have been some challenges going on in my life that has kept me from posting consistently on social media for almost a month. I also haven’t written a post in over 3 weeks! (My bad, ya’ll) Some might say that’s not a big deal but I try to churn out new content at least  twice a week so you can clearly see how behind I am.

I was already in a bit of a funk about a few things and the added stress of creating blog posts, Facebook page posts and Instagram pics was NOT helping. I was like “Oh no! My followers are going to leave me!” “I committed myself to helping people with self-care and now I’m not holding up my end of the bargain!” I was totally stressin ya’ll….not a good look for a self-care coach, huh?

But it’s all good and let me tell you why…

Sometimes life get’s in the way.

That’s just how it is. It’s not an excuse, it’s real talk! Yes, i’m a self-care coach but i’m also a wife, a mother, an employee, a business owner and a friend. At any given time any of those things can get out of wack and I need to refocus my energy. I’m not saying to use this reasoning as a crutch but it IS fine to take time off when you need it. You’ll be better for it.

You can’t give what you don’t have.

When things go south in your life you BETTER give it your focus and make it right or else everything else will suffer. Your marriage, your household, your job and best believe your kids will pick up on the vibe. Handle your business, get your mind right and then you can continue to shoot for the stars!

No one is perfect, dammit!

Who ever heard of a self-care coach not having it all together? That’s what I thought. I was beating myself up about this at first but then I realized, i’m only human. I’m not immune to life’s challenges. It’s like a hair dresser who’s hair looks a hot mess! Or an overweight fitness instructor! It doesn’t mean they are not good at their jobs, they just have to make some adjustments!

Great things come from trials and tribulations.

So i’m in a better head space now and able to continue on with my self-care coaching. And guess what, i’m writing this blog post because of it so….WINNING! I’m talking about my experience so you can learn to take it easy on yourselves. Plenty of great things come out of challenges and hardships. When you go through something, that’s a lesson from God that you can use to one day help another person.

So I hope this helps someone balance life and business a bit better. No superwomen over here! Just women doing what we gotta do to better ourselves and those around us.

Cheers

Go Back to School Focused, Healthy & Rested (using Essential Oils)

Guest Post By: Lynell Shattls

The unofficial end of summer is here and our children will soon be back in school.  As this new “season” arrives, many struggle to get back to their self-care habits, patterns and schedules.  This can be a challenge after having several months to sleep in, play outside and only focus on having fun, right?  Here are a few tips to turn the tide and get your kids back on track.

Focus is key to school success

If you’re like my family, the lazy days of summer let the kids slip a bit from keeping their brains challenged on a daily basis.  To increase alertness at home, diffuse a blend of peppermint & wild orange in the morning and after school during homework time. This specific combination of oils are used to support areas such as stress and alertness and to feel invigorated and productive. Can you see how powerful it would be to diffuse oils in the home or classroom?

To support students who may have difficulty paying attention or staying on task in the classroom, we also use a “focus blend” of West Indian and Hawaiian sandalwood, patchouli, frankincense, lime, ylang ylang and roman chamomile.  Before they run out the front door, roll it on the bottoms of their feet (where we have the largest pores) and in the occipital triangle area at the back of the neck so it can hit the brain quickly.   Sounds pretty incredible, right?  It is, and that’s why I too love using this particular blend while working from home to switch gears quickly from Mom to Entrepreneur and back again!

Super powerful fact:

Within 22 seconds the essential oil molecules reach the brain, within 2 minutes oils will be found in the bloodstream and in 20 minutes essential oils will affect every cell in the body!

Take Preventative Measures

  1. A healthy prevention habit my family practices year-round is taking a superfood vitamin blend that helps support overall health and wellness. We also take an omega-3 pill daily.
  1. Worried about the super head lice strain? Spray children’s hair daily with a blend of distilled water, melaleuca (tea tree oil), rosemary, eucalyptus and cedarwood or you can put a drop of these into shampoo if this is easier for you. Knock on wood; we have not had it visit our family yet so we continue this practice.
  1. To give us immunity armor, we surround our home with a “protective blend” of wild orange, clove, cinnamon, eucalyptus and rosemary to clean naturally (think countertops, laundry & hands) so we have a non-toxic cleaner that naturally protects our home against certain environmental factors. We use this same protective blend to boost our immune system internally (in a beadlet or gelcap) or topically (on the bottoms of the feet) daily and aromatically (in a diffuser) to support us as a first line of defense to cleanse the air.

Did you know??

Clove is basically off the ORAC scale for antioxidants?  It blows away blueberries, pomegranate and carrots to be such a powerhouse and its one of the oils in the protective blend!

Early to bed & early to rise

Start now with gradually getting your children (and yourselves) back on schedule with bedtimes.  I, by nature am a night owl, so this next tip is as much for me as it is for the kids.

  1. Our bodies need rest to stay strong and our minds need sleep to be focused and ready for the day ahead. Diffuse oils at night to calm minds and bodies for restful sleep.  If you have a child who has sleep anxiety, mix essential oils with a carrier oil (like fractionated coconut oil) in a rollerball bottle so it’s easier to carry it into the skin and bloodstream.  Apply this topically to the bottom of the feet, in the occipital triangle area and on wrist pulse points an hour before bed.  This promotes winding down before the head hits the pillow.  Some favorite essential oils for peaceful sleep, calming and relaxation are lavender, vetiver, a calming blend (lavender, roman chamomile, ylang ylang, vanilla, marjoram & sandalwood) and a grounding blend (ho wood, frankincense, blue tansy and blue chamomile).
  1. Have trouble breathing while you sleep? Diffuse a blend for respiratory support and use it topically to support opening up the airways to breathe easier.  This blend includes laurel, eucalyptus, ravensar, melaleuca, lemon and cardamom.  It was a lifesaver for our preschooler when she picked up lots of new “junk” during her first year in school.  You’ll wonder why it’s taken you so long to wake up and smell the roses…or coffee, depending on your preference!

Use these healthy prevention practices year-round in your healthy lifestyle, not just when heading back to school.  One final note about essential oils is that not all brands are created under the same high standards as therapeutic grade quality oils.  Remember to read the oil bottle labels as some are not pure and may be labeled “not for internal use” or “not to be ingested” because they are not 100% pure natural essential oils.

fjfhLynell Shattls is our guest blogger and is a “retired” HR Executive.  This Mom of three left the dream to live the dream of being a work at home Mom to be involved in her young children’s lives while supporting those she works with on living a naturally supported life. Lynell regularly provides education in the Northern Virginia area and online on using essential oils to support a healthy family and home.  Contact her to schedule a class in your home or workplace on a topic such as healthy happy kids, pregnancy with oils, emotions, stress in the workplace and cooking with oils.  Lynell has a BacktoSchool Essentials Facebook class online this week from 8/25-8/31. To know more about essential oil tips and usage, follow Lynell on Facebook & Instagram @essentially focused with Lynell or email her directly at essentiallyfocusedwithlynell@gmail.com.

4 Ways to Quiet a Racing Mind Before Bed

For as long as I can remember I’ve had racing thoughts before bed. As an entrepreneur, your mind is constantly thinking about your next move and getting to the next level. When the failure or success falls soley on your shoulders there is quite an overload of thoughts that go through your head. I don’t work my business full-time yet but I can only imagine the added stress that the full-timers have when your business is responsible for necessities like food and shelter.

Still, we need to learn how to quite our minds so we can get a peaceful night’s rest. Quality sleep is so important to our lives yet we are always so eager to  squeeze things in thereby pushing our bed time further and further until we don’t even know what time we are supposed to go to bed!

Below are some things that I found helpful to shut your mind off when its time for bed…

  1. Write down your thoughts before bed – You know those racing thoughts you get as soon as your head hits the pillow? They need somewhere to go. Get them out of your head and on to paper so you can deal with them tomorrow. You’d be surprised how this simple act can quiet your mind and send you off to sleep land.
  2. Breathe – Try taking deep breathes in through your nose and out through your mouth, holding each breathe for 3 seconds.  Notice the tension leaving your body on each exhale. I know, sounds overly simple and you’ve probably heard it before. But just try it! It works!
  3. Enjoy Quiet Activities – Think about activities that calm you and put you in a more open minded or relaxed state.  For some people, it’s painting, reading, knitting, or puzzle books.  I recently started adult coloring and it really helps. The activity shouldn’t be overly physical or mental.  Start making it a habit of this activity being the last thing you do before you go to bed.
  4. Recount Your Successes – Buy a journal and before you lay down, make a list of your successes from the day or the moments which you were grateful for.  This will slow down your thoughts and send out off to sleep in a positive mindset.

Wishing your a restful night’s sleep.